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Know that your feelings are normal. Your husband is part of you. Your heart, your home, and your whole life. These tips are for women who miss their husbands for reasons other than death: hospitalization, separation due to circumstances, or divorce.
How to deal with missing your partner
As normal as it is to yearn for your ificant other when they're not around, there's a whole science behind missing your partner that you might not be aware of. Emotions are complicated and not always easy to understand.
For instance, missing your partner when you're in a long distance relationship makes a ton of sense. But missing them after you just saw them, doesn't.
While the latter may seem a little troubling, experts say it's completely normal. In fact, you have the chemicals in your brain to thank for that.
You form a bond and you pair your partner with pleasure and happiness. When you're bonded to someoneyour brain releases chemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin. As Dr. Judy HoPhD, triple board-certified clinical neuropsychologist and co-host of The Doctorstells Bustle, these are chemicals that not only make you feel good and help you to maintain a sense of wellbeing, they lead you to seek out the stimulus that gave you pleasure in the first place.
In this case, the stimulus would be your partner. Thus, you're left missing your partner until the next time you get to see them. A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicinefound that falling in love activates the brain in the same way doing cocaine does.
For some, missing their partner can even become an obsession. According to Ho, a combination of social, personality, and biological factors all a play a role. For instance, some people are more predisposed towards obsessive thinking, while others have personality traits that cause them to think about the same things over and over again.
If you find yourself missing your partner in a way that's affecting your everyday routine, it's important to find strategies to deal with it in a healthy way. The feeling you get when you miss your partner means that your brain is seeking them out and typically your oxytocin and dopamine levels drop. As Tara L. Skubella, relationship expert and tantra coach with Earth Tantratells Bustle, "Physical touch, sexual and heartfelt connection increases these levels. If we aren't getting our natural happy chemical dosage, it's healthy to seek replacements.
There are many different ways to do this. For instance, Skubella suggests increasing the amount of touch you're experiencing throughout the day. Self-touch, getting a massage, hugging friends and family, and cuddling with your pets can be beneficial. In fact, a study published in the Indian Journal of Psychiatry found that just one yoga session can help increase levels of oxytocin.
There's a whole science to love, and missing your partner is just one part of it. As long as you're dealing with your feelings in a healthy way, it doesn't matter if you miss your partner after not seeing them for five days or five hours. It's all completely normal.
Ortigue, S. Gothe, N. Judy HoPh. Tara L. Skubella, relationship expert, founder of Earth Tantra. By Kristine Fellizar. When Love Becomes Obsessive.
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