- I am 37
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- I’ve got lively dark eyes
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You spend all this time making yourself look sexy and attractive. Many women give up on love. They never let themselves get too close to a man, for fear of scaring him off.
Thanks to the media, most guys these days think that if they are good looking, women are going to line up to be with them. The first was with a drunk girl I lucked onto at a party and the other was a prostitute. I try talking to women and they seem interested at first but the conversation never goes anywhere. I walk around the mall for hours on end trying to do it day after day but never doing it. I hate seeing an attractive women with some dweeby boyfriend holding hands.
What am I doing wrong??
How can I change? Please Dan I am asking you to help me. AND also find it difficult too talking to guys.
I’m good looking, but can’t get a girlfriend
AND this has made feel me so shy when i try to approach women and the woman can just see directly from me so i really need your help. Where am I going wrong Dan? How can I be the man that women want? The majority of women have what I call an Open Type, which means that they are open to being with many different types of guys in terms of looks, race, financial status, height, weight, etc as long as the guy can make her feel attracted and drawn to him in other ways.
Most women are seeking more important, useful traits in a man such as confidence, charisma, the ability to make her laugh, the potential to do well in life, the ability to make her feel girly in response to his masculinity and the ability to be respected by other men and get along with people in general. Some women will feel attracted to him and even try to pick him up, but those women will usually either be unattractive, drunk or weird psychos. In the peacock bird species, the male bird shows off his colorful plumage and hopes to be selected by the female bird for his appearance.
In the human species, it is the woman who gets dressed up, wears make up and tries to look as physically appealing as possible to be selected by the best males for her appearance. Many modern men have become confused with all the advertising messages they see on TV, which show men being adored and lusted after for being good looking, having six-pack abs or wearing the latest fashions.
They have been led to believe that if they just look good enough, women will approach them like female actors do in Hollywood movies and TV shows. Yet, in the real world, the human mating dance has not changed.
It also allows the woman to select a man for how his personality, behavior and communication style makes her feel. If you go through life trying to get women to select you based on looks, you will be dancing the wrong mating dance. Women are looking for more useful traits in a man than just a pretty face or perfectly sculpted gym body.
It is a fact of nature that human women can and will select a man based on his personality, behavior and communication style.
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When a guy can attract a woman in other ways e. The dictionary definition of attraction is:. Attraction noun : A quality or feature of someone that evokes interest, liking or desire. You either believe what you see in the media and what women SAY or you watch what people actually do. People can say whatever they want, but the reality is that women can and do feel attracted to men for many different reasons other than looks and money. How many of those guys would want to hit on her, have sex with her and have her as their girlfriend? She knows that men are attracted to her because of her looks, so for her, getting a guy is not a challenge.
If a woman is beautiful or at least decent looking, all she has to do is dress a little sexy, put on some makeup and do her hair and she can have pretty much any guy she wants. After experiencing the same thing her entire life where guys are hoping to get a chance with her simply based on her looks, she develops a need for a guy who makes her feel lucky to have been chosen by him. She wants to be with a guy who makes her hope to get a chance with him.
Yet, finding a guy like that is next to impossible for a beautiful woman. If she is beautiful, most guys will instantly like her, want to have sex with her and will hope to be chosen by her for looking good e.
It’s not just you—all women experience this (that’s why they ask for help)
Instead, she looks for men who have more important traits that human men need to survive, thrive and prosper in this world e. A woman wants a man who can make her feel attracted in longer lasting ways, rather than just the fleeting feelings of initial physical attraction that she may feel for a good looking guy. How could she let herself get pregnant to him!? Is it possible that his personality traits, behavior and way of communicating with her made her feel attracted enough to start a relationship with him and then made her want to start a family with him?
Is she making a mistake being with him? Should she have chosen a guy who looks like a male model instead?
Is that all women want? A guy who looks good? Are looks and money the main things that a woman needs from a guy, or could most women be a lot less shallow about looks that you might imagine? Do guys have to have male model looks to have a beautiful girlfriend or wife, or can they attract women with their personality, behavior and communication style?
Most women place less importance on looks than men realize
We men want to find a beautiful looking woman because that is what is important in terms of feeling proud of her, having beautiful children and feeling a continued attraction to her physical appearance, long enough to procreate. Yes, she can feel attracted to looks, but instinctively, she knows that looks are not the most valuable and useful trait that a guy can have. If she meets an average or below-average looking guy who can attract her in more important ways and make her feel the way that she truly wants to feel when with a guy, then she will be a winner in life for being with him.
Her life is going to be GREAT because she is attracted to her man and he makes her feel the way she really wants to feel with a guy. Instead of a woman wasting her whole life trying to find a guy who looks like a perfect male model and has a billion dollars, she will happily accept a guy who looks okay and has the potential to do well in life.
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If a woman feels attracted to a man for other reasons e. The good-looking guy is always surrounded by beautiful women and it seems like that is how it is supposed to be; beautiful people with beautiful people. You may have even heard women saying that they only like handsome men or that they will only go out with a very good-looking guy. You may want to believe that attracting women is all about looks and money and you can if you want, but I promise you this….
You will overhear a beautiful woman talking about how much she loves a guy and he will NOT be good looking like a model. He may only have an average job and drive an average car…or have no job and no car. He might even be overweight or from a race that you think is not as attractive as your race. You will see beautiful women walking along Ordinary guy seeks girlfriend a boyfriend or husband and the guy will not be a good-looking man.
He will look ordinary or maybe even ugly in your eyes. She will dump him soon. Why is she with him? Attraction is the feeling that a person gets in response to features and qualities of another person.
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The sooner you accept it, the sooner you can stop thinking that the human mating dance is the same as the mating dance of the peacock bird. You can stop feeling so insecure about your looks or attached to the meaning of your looks and start focusing on attracting women with things that are within your control i. Most good-looking guys grow up being told how cute and handsome they are.
Maybe their mothers, sisters, relatives and friends tell them how good they are going to be with the ladies when they grow up. It gets drummed into their head that they are good looking and they grow up expecting to have women flock to them.
Some good looking guys grow up and are confident, masculine and know how to talk to women in a way that turns them on. Those guys find it very easy to attract women and get a girlfriend. When that happens, all the compliments you got as and young man about being handsome and good looking may suddenly seem less believable.
Were my parents just being nice by saying that I was a handsome young man? Was I good looking before, but am now becoming ugly as I grow up? What is going on? If the way that he talks to her and interacts with her is unattractive e. His looks will suddenly begin to seem unappealing to her and she will find it difficult to feel any attraction for him at all.
Yet, the reason why you will see beautiful women with ugly, overweight, short or bald men is that women CAN be attracted in other ways. Most men are not rich and most men only have an average-sized penis, yet they still manage to get a girlfriend or wife or Ordinary guy seeks girlfriend sex with many beautiful women. When a guy has real confidence, it means he believes in himself and in his abilities at all times.
Not some of the time, but ALL of the time. If you can only manage to feel confident around unattractive women, but you then lose confidence in yourself around attractive women, it means that you are insecure. Insecurity noun : Lack of confidence or assurance; self-doubt. A beautiful woman wants a guy who believes in himself no matter what; even if she tests him during a conversation and tries to make him feel insecure. Not all beautiful women will accept an ugly or average looking guy who is confident, but many will because most women have what I call an Open Type, meaning that they are open to being with many different types of guys as long as the guy can make her feel a sufficient amount of attraction for other reasons.
She knows that when they begin a relationship, the initial attraction to looks will become less important. She wants to be able to feel attracted to a guy for more important, long lasting ways. To be certain about being able to pick a woman up, you need to know how to attract her in many different ways at once.
Confidence is extremely attractive to women, but you should also be backing that up by attracting her in other ways as well. The more ways that you can make women feel attracted to you, the more attractive you will be to women. Many guys make the mistake of thinking that being masculine is only about being tall, having a buff body or a full head of thick hair.
If a guy can handle himself well under pressure e. A man who has the mental and emotional masculinity to remain strong under pressure is the sort of man that she can rely on now and in the future.