- Years old:
- What is my ethnicity:
- Body features:
- My body features is quite skinny
This, however, is a defect I can live with because it sure beats the alternative. As most men can attest, this sort of misunderstanding is rather common in the dating world. Both men and women deal with the fact that a lot of times being flirty and being friendly look and sound pretty similar. Communicating that you're not interested in romance without being rude or feeling awkward can be tricky, I know. This is going to necessitate some insight into the male mind and a good deal of finesse.
For years upon years, relationships have been causing us stress and happiness. They are the ultimate contradiction that our hearts face. They basically lead to the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. Along with the complexity of relationships, comes a concept that has been plaguing, primarily guys, for years.
From a guy’s perspective
The friend-zone. Oh boy! It makes me cringe to even read the words on a screen, let alone experience such a daunting curse. Guys definitely do their fair share of leading people on, too. I usually see a typical pattern with this type of behavior, though.
Quit thinking you’re being mean
When a guy or girl gets friend-zoned, and subsequently continues to be strung along, there are a few things that are at play, as well as a few things that could be done to avoid the drawn-out situation. So, you really have to communicate and be honest. You might even have to draw some hard boundaries. Just be honest.
They want honesty above all. Communicate with those friend-zoned dudes. God knows they need that blunt communication more than anything.
7 tips on how to avoid leading him on
He may seem like he enjoys being around you, but truthfully when he goes home, he turns into a mess, torturing himself with thoughts of you. He wants to be with you. Often times, they are more comfortable giving a fake rather than denying someone altogether.
Leading someone on like this only leaves the door open a crack, making them believe that they have a chance with you. Let them know how you feel. Make sure they know where you stand.
If you sense that they might want something more than friendship, be honest with them. They also display poor boundaries by being led on.
Often times they need your help. They need separation from you.
Am i leading them on?
A lot of people that get tied up into these circumstances are very co-dependent. Some of the time they are actually being led on by someone else as well.
The person being friend-zoned hangs on for dear life because they think they have a chance to be the knight in shining armor. The best way to break this co-dependence? I know, this is so not fun to think about.
When we depend on other people for our happiness or satisfaction, we set ourselves up for a mighty roller-coaster ride. Often times the reason that people find themselves in this circumstance is because they have not first made peace with being by themselves.
Sure, that can be uncomfortable to think about, but when you actually focus on not depending on someone else, you really become aware of what you can offer. You realize that you have lots of strengths that can benefit the world. Unfortunately, most people learn about themselves in the difficult situations.
How to not lead guys on?
The majority of people learn through pain. Whatever gets you there I guess. Hopefully you can disarm some of this stuff before it gets too painful, though. Social Worker. Life is messy. Come along for the ride! in.
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